The Sage never fails in saving people, therefore no one is rejected.
—Tao Te Ching 27
The relationally-oriented follow role models, so the way they find humility is for their role models (or their role models’ role models) to not be relationally-oriented. This happens naturally. Any relationally-oriented role model would follow other role models, so the chain of role models can only end with the non-relationally-oriented. This is the way the Teaching to balance relational orientation works: by helping the relationally-oriented to relate more directly with their ultimate role models we place them in a paradox which forces them to entertain other forms of evaluation.
One of the most clear ways to exhibit non-relational-orientation is to prioritize people who are not close to oneself and thus to break social barriers. Some of the most famous role models who broke social barriers include: God, Krishna, Moses, King David, Buddha, Confucius, Jesus, and Mohammad. Attempting to imitate these kinds of role models quickly leaves us unable to maintain our relational biases.
The preceding is an excerpt from Chapter 15 of GRIN Free – GRIN Together: How to let people be themselves (and why you should) by Christopher Santos-Lang